The one thing I want you to take away from what you’re about to read is this simple declaration, “Never settle for less when you know you deserve more.”
Never settle for a battered self-esteem when your partner is supposed to be the one person that makes you feel like you’re the most beautiful thing they’ve ever seen. Never settle for their inconsistency when your devotion has always been constant and dependable.
Never excuse their lies when you know you deserve nothing short of honesty. Never settle for their double standards; rules and regulations that always seem to apply to you but never to them. Never be content with their rare moments of affection and reciprocation when you know you’ve always given them all of yourself with no reservations or conditions. Never subject yourself to the sting of betrayal when loyalty is all you’ve ever asked for. Never cling to the memories of your relationship’s good old days in the hope of making it work when moving on could allow you to explore the possibility of better days with someone else. No man or woman can ever be perfect, but never settle for someone that doesn’t consciously endeavor to better themselves romantically, financially, spiritually, intellectually, and physically.
Love is non-negotiable. It has no timeouts or breaks. It’s either you’re in it, or you’re not. Love is responsible, accountable, and doesn’t make excuses when it falters in either. For some love is blind, and for others it makes them blind. The smart ones learn from it, and the not so smart ones are held hostage by it. If you’re honest with yourself, you can tell if you’re with someone who deserves your love. If they do, you’ve found yourself a keeper. But if they don’t, then they need to step aside or be set aside in order to let someone who is more deserving take center stage in your life.
From Kwapi Vengesayi‘s book, Men Cheat More, Women Cheat Better: Stories and Conversations About Love, Life and Everything in Between (2017) Available on Amazon