What’s Wrong with Love, Today? (Part 1)

What’s wrong with love today? Somewhere along the line relationships became a game. It went from being simple and straightforward confessions of affection such as “I like you and I want to be with you!”, and evolved into complicated mind games where honesty and playing fair are considered liabilities and the only way to win is to put your own selfish needs before anyone else’s.

What’s wrong with love today? We got lost in its grey areas as we created words, phrases and stages that complicated things. Now you can’t find two people whose definition of dating, talking, exclusive, and together are the same. It’s in these grey areas that hearts get broken as people stop being on the same page about their intentions and expectations.

What’s wrong with love today? People don’t mean what they say and don’t say what they mean. Some us of do this because it’s the quickest way to get what we want. Others do it because they feel it’s the only way to protect themselves from pain. Regardless of the reasons, be it selfishness or fear, we all became deceitful.

What’s wrong with love today? People don’t mind having, or being the man or the woman on the side. There is no honor in love and relationships anymore. People don’t respect their relationships enough to stay true to them, and others don’t respect people’s relationships enough to care about whether or not they ruin them.

What’s wrong with love today? We started watching too many movies and reading so many books that made us forget that love is an experience unique to each individual. Each encounter doesn’t come with a manual, a kiss in the rain, a five year plan, or instructions on how to think like a man.

What’s wrong with love today? We started playing hard to get with the people that deserve our love, but kept on making it easy for those who didn’t. Thus, the people who would be great at love began to fear it while those who give love a bad name were given more opportunities to taint it.

What’s Wrong With Love Today? The things that should matter most don’t matter much anymore, and the things that shouldn’t matter at all now matter greatly.


Kwapi Vengesayi

FB: @kwapivengesayi | Twitter: @kwapiv | IG: @kwapiv

From Kwapi Vengesayi‘s book, Men Cheat More, Women Cheat Better: Stories and Conversations About Love, Life and Everything in Between (2017) Available on Amazon


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