"Are you gay?” he asked me. It’s always strange when people ask me that. I guess, in their minds, they can’t seem to accept or comprehend the idea of a straight, African, Christian male being okay with the LGBT community, let alone being supportive and vocal about it. Clearly, in their minds, I must be…Read more Echoes: A Conversation About LGBTQ Rights
"I think you’re cool and all, but I don’t get any romantic vibes between us.” I average about three of those conversations a year. Sometimes, I am the rejector and, in others, the rejected. Whichever side you’re on in the conversation, rejection can be a bitch, but through it all, I’ve come to learn a…Read more What Rejection Taught Me
Of all the treasures I've ever held in my arms, I'm certain you're the one thing that I'll love the most. Beyond flesh, beyond blood, you’re my heart and soul; the true manifestation of my everything and all. Whether you are my biological child, adopted child, or stepchild—whichever way you come into my world—know that…Read more To My Unborn Child
I don’t think we need to throw out the concept of marriage. We could just use a few fundamentals… In less than 50 years we have dismantled the family unit. Gender roles have become ambiguous. This is without a doubt a triumph for human rights. Women have more liberties than at any other point in…Read more Is Marriage Obsolete?
We all learn different lessons as activists and come to different conclusions based on our experiences and observations. The biggest lesson I've learned through it all is to pace yourself and be deliberate in what you say and what you do: it's better to be proactive, okay to be reactionary, but in either of those…Read more The Biggest Lesson I’ve Learned in Activism
One of my lady friends once told me the funniest story. She said there were two good, Christian men trying to date her, and both of them on separate occasions had claimed that God told them she would be their wife. "So God told BOTH of them the same thing?" she asked rhetorically. A husband…Read more God Told Me To Marry You!
Its no secret that I battle depression and anxiety: in fact I talk about it openly to combat the stigma of mental health issues. To my closest and dearest, they can often pick up on it, but to those not close, they may have a tougher time sensing it. And that's the thing with depression…Read more Depression and Being a Duck