5 Reasons Your Partner Doesn’t Deserve You

Some relationships soar, and others crash and burn. Caught in the struggle of trying to navigate through love’s often undulating and unpredictable nature, the strongest bonds persevere while the weak fall off. Sometimes you realize you’re with someone who doesn’t appreciate you, or they realize you don’t appreciate them. That’s the moment your mind starts…

Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

Our hearts waved goodbye as we blew kisses into the wind. Before today, together forever was a promise. We didn’t shake on it, but as our lips locked for the first the time a pact was made. We were in love. A love so strong that if we died of old age and were reincarnated,…

One Day, Love Got Lazy

One day, love got lazy. It went from being four page, handwritten, ink-stained declarations of love, to text message courtships, and DM slides. One day love became obsessed with materialism and superficial cravings; relationships started to be defined by our preoccupation with money, looks, and status. One day love became possessive, and instead of holding…

Glad It Happened, But Happy It’s Over

Like battle weary veterans, she and I would exchange love stories. Bruised and scarred by love’s many encounters, we would tell tales of how we endured in times of disappointment and heartache. These were often intriguing conversations that would sometimes spiral into bizarre but profound observations and epiphanies. Because you see, for every kiss, there…

On-Again, Off-Again Relationships

I have friends that are stuck in those on-again off-again relationships. Like a pendulum swinging on a grandfather clock, they are caught in what seems to be an infinite and predictable loop. One day they tell you they are done and moving on, but the next day they say they are back together, things will…

Help Me Write My Next Book

Hey friends and stranger! I’m working on my next book. And like my last, Men Cheat More, Women Cheat Better: Stories and Conversations About Love, Life and Everything in Between (2017), my hope is to bring friends and strangers alike to share their voices and tell their own stories. What I’d be asking for would be…

The Good Ones Aren’t Hard to Find

Some say a good woman or man is hard to find. I disagree. I think the good ones are easy to find, but the shallow goggles some of us wear make them harder to notice. The best ones pass as us by while we obsess over the bad ones. We don’t give them a chance…

Sorry, Not Sorry

I’m sorry I never believed you when you said I was too good for you. I thought you were those modest, “I don’t deserve a good thing,” kind of guys. I was ready to slay the dragons of the past lies your exes had made you accept. I wanted to love away the insecurities and…

Divorce: One-Year Later

“I found a place. I’m moving out.” “Okay.” “Are we done?” “Yes, I think so.” Silence. It was Christmas day. After nearly seven years of marriage, we could not find a way to work together. We were both defeated with nothing left in the tank to even discuss the issues we had to solve, let…

She Kissed Every Toad Hoping for a Prince

To some people she was gullible; easily wooed and fooled by any man oozing with charm and blessed with the sweetest tongue. To others she was shallow; a woman who didn’t mind dating the douchebag as long as he was good looking, popular, or “Ballin.” To a few she was dumb; too stupid to realize…