Dating: What Are We? And Where is this Going?

There is nothing more exhilarating than getting to know someone. Nothing more exciting than getting lost in your mind as you imagine the potential of what that person could become in your life—a good friend or lover, perhaps a husband or wife. You are overwhelmed by the attention they give you—the calls, the text messages, […]

One Day, Love Got Lazy

One day, love got lazy. It went from being four page, handwritten, ink-stained declarations of love, to text message courtships, and DM slides. One day love became obsessed with materialism and superficial cravings; relationships started to be defined by our preoccupation with money, looks, and status. One day love became possessive, and instead of holding […]

Glad It Happened, But Happy It’s Over

Like battle weary veterans, she and I would exchange love stories. Bruised and scarred by love’s many encounters, we would tell tales of how we endured in times of disappointment and heartache. These were often intriguing conversations that would sometimes spiral into bizarre but profound observations and epiphanies. Because you see, for every kiss, there […]

What Rejection Taught Me

“I think you’re cool and all, but I don’t get any romantic vibes between us.” I average about three of those conversations a year. Sometimes, I am the rejector and, in others, the rejected. Whichever side you’re on in the conversation, rejection can be a bitch, but through it all, I’ve come to learn a […]

Know Your Worth in Love & Relationships

If you feel you have an idea of what you’re worth then make sure you find someone who appreciates it. You glance over the failed choices you’ve made in your relationships and you soon realize that it wasn’t them that failed you, it was you that failed yourself. You chose the sketchy person over the […]

12 Signs Your Man Isn’t Worth Keeping

It’s not my intent to set some unrealistic standards of romance or chivalry, and I do believe that there are a lot of good men out there. The only problem is that some women are so preoccupied with investing time in the bad choices, they never notice the good ones. So I’m going to do […]

Men Are Great Pretenders

Men are the hunters and women are the hunted. Crawling through the foliage of courtship, we camouflage our intentions and blend into the landscape of your expectations and desires. We are great pretenders. Like actors on a stage, we fake emotions and recite beautifully rehearsed lines that sooth and woo you. Like an army laying […]