Laws of Attraction: A Lesson in Courtship

Her beauty was as refreshing as the sweet orchid scented fragrance of a crisp summer morning as droplets of crystal clear dew rested on the blades of luscious green grass. Her smile was like a snapshot in time, so simple, yet heaven sent. She was never without a suitor. Men were quick to confess their […]

What Rejection Taught Me

“I think you’re cool and all, but I don’t get any romantic vibes between us.” I used to average about three of those conversations a year. Sometimes, I was the rejector and, in others, the rejected. Whichever side you’re on in the conversation, rejection can be a bitch, but through it all, I’ve come to […]

Divorce: One-Year Later

“I found a place. I’m moving out.” “Okay.” “Are we done?” “Yes, I think so.” Silence. It was Christmas day. After nearly seven years of marriage, we could not find a way to work together. We were both defeated with nothing left in the tank to even discuss the issues we had to solve, let […]

Dating: What Are We? And Where is this Going?

There is nothing more exhilarating than getting to know someone. Nothing more exciting than getting lost in your mind as you imagine the potential of what that person could become in your life—a good friend or lover, perhaps a husband or wife. You are overwhelmed by the attention they give you—the calls, the text messages, […]

One Day, Love Got Lazy

One day, love got lazy. It went from being four page, handwritten, ink-stained declarations of love, to text message courtships, and DM slides. One day love became obsessed with materialism and superficial cravings; relationships started to be defined by our preoccupation with money, looks, and status. One day love became possessive, and instead of holding […]

Glad It Happened, But Happy It’s Over

Like battle weary veterans, she and I would exchange love stories. Bruised and scarred by love’s many encounters, we would tell tales of how we endured in times of disappointment and heartache. These were often intriguing conversations that would sometimes spiral into bizarre but profound observations and epiphanies. Because you see, for every kiss, there […]

12 Signs Your Man Isn’t Worth Keeping

It’s not my intent to set some unrealistic standards of romance or chivalry, and I do believe that there are a lot of good men out there. The only problem is that some women are so preoccupied with investing time in the bad choices, they never notice the good ones. So I’m going to do […]